I’m sorry for being rude

sorry for being rude

Hey dear,

I’m sorry for the time I was being rude. For the time I was totally insensitive to your sensitiveness.

I have become so sensitive to rudeness now, and certainly don’t feel comfortable at all being rude to. Then I’ve probably got how you felt…

I’m sorry that I didn’t touch your heart as much as I should have. I made you suffer in every bit every time we saw each other. Now I know every second we exist is precious and noone deserves tough time in this short and unpredictable lifetime. I’d better leave it if it’s a tough time for you or for me.

I also had failed in establishing a connection with your mind. And vice versa, you didn’t get into my mind properly either. We had stayed apart for so long ever since but we didn’t even know. Every weekend date didn’t make us closer any bit. We fell apart more and more, chasing our own minds, own paths without even glancing at each other’s, even when we were thinking we were close enough about the distance. We’d got high and low on our own, or we’d rather share it with people who knew about our things, either it was a friend or the siblings, sadly, not to each other.

We’d painfully learned a lot about that vast event. But I’ve never truly said sorry.

Forgive me, for a time being rude, silly and unconscious.

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There he is (Ideal boyfriend)

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He texts me today. My eyes are running over the screen and catching some keyword from his text. There is some negative word in his message. But I don’t even have a wrinkle on my forehead.

Cause I know he is not bringing me any headache. It must be a joke he is delivering, or something like that. So I swipe unlocked and read it more carefully. I was right. It’s just another joke.  Always funny and makes me laugh a lot.

When things are getting tense, I know he’ll just try to ease it as best as he can before he reveals them to me. He’ll make fun of all the troubles we may be facing, since all he wishes is to relieve my mind, not tearing my nerve. He would act like my smile is his sunshine that he would never let anything dim it.

When he texts, he brings up light-hearted spontaneous stories. To make this world less painful and brighter, since he knows life is hard enough for me, for him, for everyone. But at the same time, he doesn’t forget to pay attention to my emotions. He notices the lightest attitude change on my face and asks about it immediately.

When I am upset, he’s there, holding my hand, speaking nothing but feeling me and my pain. It seems that just by holding my hand, my mind has been tranferred to him and thus, he’s able to feel the same thing.

Having a special spirit, he is smart, creative, light-hearted and logical. He loves himself and appreciates me. He loves nature and is kind to everyone he meets, or animal. He’d rather be cute and super honest in front of me. Bare and raw.

Boy, don’t think that I am demanding. Because this can be me as well. I’ll be demanding on myself to be with you. Coz I know by the time I’ve ever got a chance to know you, I’d been traveling a hundred lives before.

Truc Vien, 24Mar2017

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Boy, can you do me a favor?

Can you do me a favor? By being that right guy.

Boy, noone enjoys breakup, even you (unless you were playing around). So be right from the beginning.

Boy, are you tired searching all your whole life for one woman who can go with you the rest? So be right as much as you can.

Do you feel that she’s just perfect for you? Or can be perfect for anyone as well? Just be right. She has no reason to stay with you if you are so wrong for her.

Do you want a right person for you? Be right. The wrong guy gets the wrong girl. Its just simply logical.

Do you want to enjoy eternal sweet happy moments with her? Be right and appropriate.

Do you want to go with her your long way ahead? Be right, be kind and compassionate.

Boy. Can you do me a favor? Don’t rush into a relationship if you are not going to learn how to love, appreciate your partner, not gonna be right, kind and patient.

Because, you’ll hurt people, or worse, hurt yourself.

Do me a favor, be the right one. 🍻

Do me a favor, let me fall in love with your personality.

TrucVien, 15Mar2017

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I’M SORRY BUT SINCE IT HURT

So I think I’ve been moving to a stage where I may get ahead to avoid being hurt. 100% falling for someone might seem to be a weird thing for me nowadays. Instead, I raise my shield, get prepared with the sword, well, but not ready for any fight, just try to be a cool display, show that I’m secured enough and in fact, when things get turned in a wrong way, I might just simply always drop all of the weapons to walk away leaving everything, never ready for any drama any more. But thanks, shield, anyway. Pain is less likely to touch me, or at least it might be what I’ll show off.

I’ve been feeling so special with you, yet, so unspecial at all. You should have not told me loads about your past. I’m a stupid creature to get jealous with all of those things, past is past, present is present, I know you would explain that and so do I to myself, but…somehow it’s in there in your personality. If tomorrow we’re gonna breakup, will you even remember my name among your oceans of your girlfriends? Or you will just simply get some girl you meet on the street and turn her to be your girlfriend, forget all about me? I just can’t stand the feeling, I’m no that too confident to stick to the thought that I’m the most special girl in the world that every man should fall for, but…that’s it, it just makes me feel unspecial. Sometimes, I step forward to feel you more, hurtfully, the more I know about you, the more I just want to step back, Im afraid I may get hurt by the person who I’m still not sure about, yeah it’s true. I don’t know you; you don’t know me, even when we “know” each other. So I’ve been grabbing bit by bit of you day by day and getting bitter on my own, not about you, but about how many painful moments human can get in their life and how much into the depth they feel so hurtful but after all just swallow everything down and try to chin up again.

I’ve got much hurt enough to put all of my trust to someone again, in a discomfort that they might be laughing at me just because I am giving them the benefit of the doubt. I shouldn’t care about that, as long as my heart is pure and my intentions are good, but… I am not a Saint, to feel great knowing all that. You might think I’m a psycho myself for all of these things, but, I’m just honest, about what is going on inside me, about my unsecured feeling being with a person of the past and can be the present (this matters most). It’s just a way I get myself protected, I guess, and sorry I’m not gonna be able to help much with this.

THE TALK

 

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OK. Let’s make it straight to the point that last night I had the sweetest dream ever in my life. In my dream, I jumped into the best part of the relationship: He took me out for the shopping! Woohoo. So pitiful that was just a dream.

However, another most interesting part was that after shopping for a while, while carrying all my shopping bags, he asked us to stay for a short break, and he offered me to sit opposite to him instead of sitting on the same row like everyone would do, so that we can talk. He’s such a gentleman, from his appearance, his voice, his gesture to his conversation. I can still feel his warmth overwhelming me LOL. I know that sounds silly to tell a dream that was already passed for almost 12 hours and I feel that was even more emotional than a teenage girl.

However, in fact, there is something more important I’d like to tell… I didn’t know this kind of expectation has been rooting in my sub-conscience this far that my dream finally spilled it out perfectly and beautifully this way. The talk.  He asked me to talk, to share, and that where the connection between the two souls started to establish. He wanted to listen to me; he offered to know me; he’d like to touch my soul; he wished to feel me, feel what I actually thought. He was really honest of his desire to share, whatever between us. Another plus point is that his voice and body language were so so gentle. What on earth could a girl ask for more? I don’t know what else people would ask for more, I only know that’s too much for me. The rest of my life I am gonna live just for that. That kind of connection and understanding between the two different people who share their souls.

So bad that the most beautiful dream ended too fast, so now I need to be back to the reality and live it to the fullest, while hoping that one day, my dream-man would come. However, be cautious, this heart is very sensitive to the cheating and un-honest ones, so man, don’t try to hard.

 

To My Fellow Women, Life Isn’t Just About Finding A Boyfriend — Thought Catalog

To my fellow women, its not worth looking for a guy instead of living your life to the fullest.

Gotta translate this to Vietnamese soon.

Truc Vien

Gabi E. MulderTo the girls who go on dates after dates, looking for the “one”. For the women who hopelessly wait for the man of their dreams to show up at their door any second, and for the ones who feel miserable about themselves because they don’t have a significant other, life is so much…

via To My Fellow Women, Life Isn’t Just About Finding A Boyfriend — Thought Catalog

This Is The Real Difference Between Liking Someone And Truly Loving Them — Thought Catalog

iStockPhoto.com / KieferpixTo like someone is to like their smile, to like the way their hair flops to the side, and to notice butterflies in your stomach when they come towards you. To like someone is to tell them about yourself, about your family, your friends and your hobbies. It’s about getting to know what…

via This Is The Real Difference Between Liking Someone And Truly Loving Them — Thought Catalog

This Is What Love Is — Thought Catalog

I cant agree more on this. I actually had two similiar posts about love, same idea here: How long should a relationship take and A real boyfriend.

Paolo RaeliThey say that maybe love isn’t an intense shot of tequila as much as it is a long sip of well-matured wine. I think everyone expects love to be this intense experience. But it’s not. Love is comfortable. It’s being able to let your guard down, to completely be in the presence of your…

via This Is What Love Is — Thought Catalog

I Want The Kind Of Love That Makes Me A Better Person — Thought Catalog

Everyone wants this but not everyone knows to set this criteria.

It’s over the time whe look for handsome guys, pretty girls, rich ones. Its soul connection and the posivity and happiness that a couple can bring to each other!

Keep it up, Thought Catolog!

Emily & Steve PhotographyI long for the love that is written about in novels with the pain, heart ache and happy ending. A love that is built on hardships and overcoming triumphs together. A love that is beautiful and real. A love that is passionate and honest, not a love that is easy and comfortable.…

via I Want The Kind Of Love That Makes Me A Better Person — Thought Catalog

A real boyfriend

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Hi girls,

In my last post, I’ve shared some of my opinions about love criteria.  Today, I’d like to narrow it down to how a true boyfriend would look like when in love with you.

You know, love is a heart thing. If things don’t come from heart then it’s not love. A true boyfriend should love you by his heart. Otherwise, you guys are just wasting time.

As I say, a true boyfriend is whole-hearted. He’s honest and he does everything for you by heart (yes, I would keep repeating “heart” 100 times). If he knows that you are craving for a piece of tiramisu cake while it’s raining like dog and cat, nothing could stop his way to you with a box of cake on his hand. Since you know, he has his heart attached to you, lady.

A true boyfriend cares about you, even you very materialistic demands. As I just said, he may just care what you eat today, what time you go to bed, what are your favorite foods. Because, above all that, he does care about you with his HEART.

A true boyfriend should “feel” you. I mean he should knows all about you, even the badness. He doesn’t criticize, he will just simply laugh at it and plan to help you improve yourself.

A true boyfriend should want to make you happy. All the time. This sticks in his mind. Your being upset can hurt him. And a true boyfriend has thousands of nonsense stories just to cheer you up. He’s also likely to pull off the nonsense person inside you so that both of you could laugh about everything together.

A true boyfriend should love spending time with you. No doubt. If he doesn’t, you guys are just not the right people for each other. Spending time with you to him doesn’t need to be “doing something”, just simply lean over to each other, feel the hear-beat (did I go too far? haha), listen to music, read books, share some random thoughts, just softly and silently like that.

A true boyfriend would care about those who you love. He knows that making them happy is making you happy, he doesn’t mind going some extra miles just to see your smiles.

I’ve made some of my points here while hoping that I myself can meet some sort of true boyfriend one day :). What’s your opinion on this?

Love,

Cherry

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